{"id":20662,"date":"2023-10-12T20:34:22","date_gmt":"2023-10-12T20:34:22","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/bctulsa.com\/?p=20662"},"modified":"2023-10-12T20:39:07","modified_gmt":"2023-10-12T20:39:07","slug":"4-benefits-of-understanding-your-triggers","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/bctulsa.com\/blog\/4-benefits-of-understanding-your-triggers\/","title":{"rendered":"4 Benefits of Understanding Your Triggers"},"content":{"rendered":"\n[et_pb_section fb_built=&#8221;1&#8243; theme_builder_area=&#8221;post_content&#8221; _builder_version=&#8221;4.22.2&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221;][et_pb_row _builder_version=&#8221;4.22.2&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; theme_builder_area=&#8221;post_content&#8221; custom_padding=&#8221;||0px|||&#8221;][et_pb_column _builder_version=&#8221;4.22.2&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; type=&#8221;4_4&#8243; theme_builder_area=&#8221;post_content&#8221;][et_pb_image src=&#8221;https:\/\/bctulsa.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/10\/Screenshot-2023-10-12-132926.png&#8221; _builder_version=&#8221;4.22.2&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; theme_builder_area=&#8221;post_content&#8221; title_text=&#8221;Screenshot 2023-10-12 132926&#8243; hover_enabled=&#8221;0&#8243; sticky_enabled=&#8221;0&#8243;][\/et_pb_image][et_pb_text _builder_version=&#8221;4.22.2&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; theme_builder_area=&#8221;post_content&#8221; hover_enabled=&#8221;0&#8243; sticky_enabled=&#8221;0&#8243;]<p>You\u2019ve probably experienced this before \u2013 having an emotional reaction disproportionate to the comment that spurred it, or a conversation that goes off the rails when emotions escalate out of nowhere. Sure, some conflict is unavoidable and necessary, but constantly lashing out when you\u2019re triggered can be pretty hard on your relationship. When you do the work to better understand your own hot spots and triggers, you\u2019ll begin to reap the following benefits:<\/p>\n<p>You\u2019ll avoid unnecessary conflict.<\/p>\n<p>Understanding your own triggers gives you a chance to temper your emotions with rational thinking so you can respond more appropriately. When you feel your heart rate starting to ramp up or your first instinct is to get defensive, it\u2019s natural to let the emotions take over, which usually leads us down the fight path. When you know your triggers, you\u2019re more able to recognize that you\u2019re having an emotional reaction because you\u2019re particularly sensitive to a certain topic. This insight helps you take on a more objective perspective of the situation and respond with more intention.<\/p>\n<p>You\u2019ll be able to take responsibility when your response is less than ideal.<\/p>\n<p>We\u2019re not robots. Emotions will sway you from time to time, and you\u2019ll inevitably respond in a way you wish you hadn\u2019t. But when you know why you overreacted, you can call yourself on it and try again. You might say, \u201cI\u2019m sorry, I shouldn\u2019t have snapped at you like that. I\u2019m feeling very insecure about that topic lately.\u201d This also helps reroute a conversation down a more positive path \u2013 creating an\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/www.prepare-enrich.com\/blog\/why-parenting-disagreements-can-test-your-relationship\/\">opportunity for connection<\/a>\u00a0instead distance.<\/p>\n<p>You\u2019ll foster a cycle of empathy.<\/p>\n<p>When you understand your own triggers, you are better positioned to communicate them to your spouse and help them understand where you\u2019re coming from. Instead of being blindsided or in the dark about your sensitive topics, they can be more empathetic. They have the knowledge that allows them to be more\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/www.prepare-enrich.com\/blog\/10-loving-ways-to-surprise-each-other\/\">thoughtful<\/a>\u00a0and aware of tone, phrasing, or\u00a0timing\u00a0when addressing certain topics. When your spouse responds to you in such a supportive and understanding way, you\u2019re much more likely to reciprocate that response.<\/p>\n<p>You\u2019ll grow together.<\/p>\n<p>It takes\u00a0self-awareness\u00a0and vulnerability to identify your triggers and share them with your partner, but it\u2019s a really powerful way to grow \u2013 both as individuals and as a couple. The areas we\u2019re sensitive about are often tied to some of our biggest vulnerabilities. When you open up to each other and learn to communicate about them in an honest and accepting way, intimacy grows. You\u2019ll learn new ways to support one another and even help each other work through some of those deep-seated fears and insecurities.<\/p>\n<p>Self-awareness is important in all aspects of life. Understanding your strengths and weaknesses can help you optimize your performance at work. Knowing what energizes and drains you allows you to be at your best in your day-to-day life. 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