Warning signs you’re missing in your marriage

Statement of Faith

We believe that God created man and that He created them male and female. As such He created them different so as to complement and complete each other. God instituted monogamous marriage between male and female as the foundation of the family and the basic structure of human society. Therefore, we perform and mentor marriages in accordance with Biblical guidelines. (Genesis 2:24; Matthew 19:4-6; John 4:16-18; Romans 1:18-32; 1 Corinthians 5:11, 6:9-11. 6:18-20, 7:1-3 and 7:8-9; Galatians 5:19-21; Ephesians 5:3-7; 1 Timothy 1:9-11)

Hey,
guys. 

Marriage
is only as good as the investment people make in it, and just like
other elements of our life, this bond between two people was
constructed so that we are either going forward into the growth
process or backing away from it. We can’t stay the same, and marriage
reflects that reality. The connection either deepens, opening both
spouses up to the hearts of each other, or it starts to deteriorate,
closing them off from each other.

Problems aren’t something that just occur “out of the blue.” So many
times a spouse will say, “Everything was fine until I found out he
was abusive,” or, “I thought we were ok until I found out about the
affair.” This would not be possible if the marriage was a place for
continual emotional investment, risk, vulnerability and honesty. And
in hindsight, many couples will say, “We now see the signs we missed
before,” and they usually have to do with things, such as:

  • Increasing withdraw of need
  • Unresolved differences the couple simply
    walks away from in resignation.
  • Preferences for others for needs that the
    marriage used to meet
  • Interests and relationships that are not
    talked about with the spouse. 

Marriage
is an investment, and for an investment to work for you, it takes an
ongoing commitment to nurturing its growth. Watch this. 

Until tomorrow …

Cheers,

Henry